Dealing with Compulsive Talkers on BBW Dates

Dealing with Compulsive Talkers on BBW Dates

Are you spending a lot of time on BBW dating sites? Likely you’ve been carefully screening your BBW dates to ensure that they’re fun, attractive, and compatible with your personality. But even if you’ve been spending a lot of time screening down your BBW dates, you may still not get it right. Have you ever been on a BBW date with a compulsive talker who won’t let you speak?

Here are a few ways you can deal with these excessive talkers so that you can have better dates.

1. They might be nervous. When people get nervous and anxious they may do things that add to your negative perception of them. Your BBW dates may simply be nervous. They may be worried you won’t ask about their interests, so they want to be certain that they tell you everything. Try not to be too judgemental with your early BBW dating experiences.

2. Give them cues. When people start looking at their watches or around the room, that’s a cue to the speaker that perhaps someone is getting bored. Don’t be afraid to use some of these polite but nonverbal cues to indicate to your date that they may be talking a bit too much.

3. Excuse me. Remember how you were taught to say “excuse me” when you were a youngster? You can still say “excuse me” as an adult to indicate that you have something to add. Most people may be a bit embarrassed that they’ve droned on and on, and will happily give you a moment to provide your point of view.

4. Use hand gestures. Simply wave your hand and let your date know that you have something to say. This is often enough to stop the talker from endlessly going on and on about their topic. Many people may honestly think that you’re fascinated with the topic. As long as you keep on smiling and nodding at them, and staring them in the eyes, they may think you’re interested and continue on. If you’re truly getting bored of the topic, there’s no need to be excessively polite. Use a polite hand gesture so you can get your voice in.

5. Give them a second chance. Everyone is nervous on a first date, particularly if you’ve met them through a BBW dating site. If they apologize and say they normally aren’t this chatty, it can be worth going on a second date with them. Many people may also be out of practice with this social aspect of their lives. Most people can learn how to discern social cues and have a good conversation with anyone. You may even wish to brush up on your social skills too, as likely you aren’t the only one who is complaining.

 
Participating in BBW dates will give you plenty of opportunities to brush up on your social skills. Even if you feel you’ve had some bad BBW dating, don’t worry, as there is likely a great date ahead!

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